Songs have meaning, give life and can set a mood. Listening to certain songs can bring back good memories or a few that you want to forget (I still can’t listen to “Secret Lovers” by Atlantic Starr after 30 years).

Some songs are known to usher in an event or signify an activity. Growing up, Motown music playing on a Saturday morning signified it was time to clean up the house. If I hear “Pomp and Circumstance,” I know a graduation is about to take place. “Take Me Out to the Ballgame” is only played during baseball games and “Here Comes the Bride” is only heard at weddings.

Certain songs set the mood. I attended a college homecoming party recently. The DJ was doing a great job but no one was really dancing, the crowd looked bored and the party was a little slow. All of a sudden the DJ played a song (I can’t remember the name) and the entire crowd jumped on its feed to dance.  In other words, the party didn’t really get started until that song was played.

Some songs are written to motivate us and give us strength.

In a marriage headed towards divorce, during the divorce process and after a divorce, both parties say a lot of things that are hurtful, and unnecessary.

Words can and do leave a mark
Words penetrate
Words make you second guess everything
Words can make you question your character

In my brief quiet time, when the world around me has settled, I hear a song and encouraging words that clears it all up for me.

Discovering a sweet melody is liberating

New words give life

New words triumph over the old words

I have found the perfect liberating song for me and my situation: “Precious” by Esperanza Spalding.  “Precious” gets me going at the start of a bad day. “Precious” gets me going when I have an unpleasant conversation with the ex. “Precious” removes all doubts when reflecting on previous unpleasant conversations.

Do you have a liberating song? Do you have a song that can put you back into perspective? Do you have a song that gets you going towards the future? Do you have a song that describes how you really feel? I do and it feels great!!!!!

“Precious”
Esperanza Spalding

Love me or leave me
But please
Don’t deceive me
And say you
Love me how I am
You love the way
I fit some ideal
Not the real woman
You’ve yet to understand
See love ain’t all heaven
And I am no angel
But I do the best I can

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that’s all that I can be
I’m sorry if it let you down

Now it’s no nice excuse
But all the magic was used
Up on trying to uphold
Some kind of tame
Flattering persona
That soon enough
Was getting real old
It takes more than pressure
To change rock to diamond
Now all you have is sand
Slipping through your fingers

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that’s all that I can be
I’m sorry if it let you down

But I’m not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed of things
You think are wrong with me
I’m not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed
Of what you think
Is wrong with me
Set you up
You say I set you up
Like I was different
Than what I am
Offering you now
And drug your heart around
Did you forget about
All of the love
And the acceptance
That you promised me too?

You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that’s all that I can be
I’m sorry if it let you down
You always wanted
Something more from my body
And said you needed
Something more from my loving
But all you got was me
And that’s all that I can be
I’m sorry if it let you down

But I’m not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed of what
You think is wrong with me
I’m not gonna sit around
And waste
My precious divine energy
Trying to explain
And being ashamed of what
You think is wrong with me